As a kid, I learned in First Aid not to pull out a fish hook if it got caught in my skin. The barb of…
Something Beautiful is Happening Today
Awake. Tongue tracing crisp contours of air. Skin warmed, eye illumined, red and green cells fueled by the teacher of generosity, whose passion daily enters…
The Ego of Whiteness: Stories, Privilege, and Shame Resilience
Anti-oppressive work for people in privileged positions demands learning to tolerate and roll with the stresses to our cherished ego stories. According to Jones and…
Boundaries are about Self-Respect
Acknowledging and respecting boundaries and limits is healthy and gives us power, yet I notice often folks seem to set boundaries in ways that are…
Nothing to Fix
In the past few years my thinking has shifted around the idea of “fixing.” I am of the opinion that when it comes to myself,…
Changing the Things We Cannot Accept
At New Year’s Eve 2016, I was at a friend’s house and noticed a book on the astrology of 2017. Some of us picked it…
Thoughts on Resilience
In preparation for a workshop I will be leading at Many Gods West I am contemplating resilience. The American Psychological Association defines resilience as: “the process of…
Releasing the Charge of Difficult Memories
Sometimes we carry intense emotional memories that continue to affect us today. I am talking about memories that still bring up feelings of shame, guilt, anger,…
The Problem of the Successful Coping Strategy
A long time ago, people would tell me I was hard to read. I didn’t understand their problem, and was a little suspicious of what…
Book Review – Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Society
Sex Outside the Lines: Authentic Sexuality in a Sexually Dysfunctional Society by Chris Donaghue Donaghue’s thesis is essentially that our sex-negative and oppressive society has created sexual…