This maddening itch in my heart is like– poison woven into tissue, sepsis radiating from the site where unspoken words putrefy in anger and hope,…
Observations for July
In the culture of the United States of America, we have internalized a belief that to work is a moral virtue, and those who do…
Be Excellent to Yourselves
In the past I’ve written that I am not a fan of positive thinking. (Though I am a fan of Zap Mama’s song “Vibrations” in…
Are there bad feelings?
Are there “bad” feelings? In brief, my answer is no. Increasingly I am coming to challenge the language we use to describe our feelings, both…
4 Principles – Wholeness is in Relationship Between Parts
4. Our wholeness is in our relationship between our parts. I approach the self as both multiple and whole, differentiating between parts of self that…
4 Principles – Desiring and Fearing Presence
3. We desire and fear presence. I define presence as the experience of being in full awareness and acceptance of one’s immediate physical, emotional, spiritual,…
4 Principles – As Within, So Without
2. As within, so without. This is a tricky one and requires context and balance. It begins with the assumption that we exist with an inner…
4 Principles – Purposeful and Paradoxical
For the next four blog posts, I will look at four key principles that inform how I approach psychotherapy. These come from practical experience and study…
forgetting a home you’ve never known
The Spirit of Phinney Ridge Children you are alien upon me, travelers pausing, eating the flesh of other lands, drinking the water of other streams,…
There is No Right Type of Relationship
One topic that I see batted back and forth often, particularly in gay male communities, is around the value of monogamy in long-term relationships. I’ve…