It Follows (2014) Recently I was home sick for a weekend and decided to catch up on some movie suggestions. It Follows had come up multiple…
Loneliness and Emotional Labor
I got walloped by a cold this week and decided to focus on resting and recharging, so I do not have much original content to…
Heroes and Villains
People say, “everyone is the hero of their own story.” A hero overcomes opposition and adversity to win the day, often possessing some great moral…
Inflated Needs and Vulnerabilities
One expression that’s become common when self-psychologizing is “I have a need for [x].” “I need to be liked.” “I have a need for approval.”…
What is in the Way?
Recently I was in a class that offered an exercise to write down my desires and vision of my goals, and then to write down about what…
Offering Okayness
Some folks who struggle have been convinced they are broken and need fixing. This often appears to come from the rational mind, completely lost amidst…
We Heal Together
We are wounded in relationship and we heal in relationship. Shame says, “You are alone. Your problems are unique. You are broken. You are bad.”…
Sink Beneath Your Reactions
Last week, I received an email. It was one I had expected for a while, and though I was in the middle of a stressful…
Meditation – The Two Worlds
We live in, at least, two worlds—the inner experience and the outer world. Each of us has our preference, often understood as a personality that is…
Cultivating Will
Sometimes I feel like a puppet, dangling from the moon, pulled by erratic moods and the needs and desires of others. Sometimes my intuition is…