Heartbreak and loss knock the best of us onto the floor. We become humbled by the absence of those who made our lives full, who…
Let yourself grieve
Whatever causes you grief, let yourself grieve. It is healing and necessary to feel the pain of the loss, whether we understand the fullness of…
Paradoxical Creatures
It’s useful to remember that people are paradoxical creatures and that the advice that works for one person may be unhelpful for another.
Writings Published Elsewhere: Pagan Perspectives on Suicide
This week, Gods & Radicals published in two parts my essay “The Prison and the Key: Pagan Perspectives on Suicide.” Part 1 is available here.…
Bypassing Goes Both Ways
Spiritual bypassing can look like ignoring the pain and discord in the world and retreating to my comfort, my meditation, my transcendent spiritual practice. Yet…
Introduction to Recalibrate: From Safety and Security to Resilience
In this video, I discuss the need and benefits of looking at our beliefs about money, work, and material wellbeing in contrast with our deep…
When Cynicism Masks Despair
Lately I find myself having thoughts along the lines of, “How can we be such sophisticated monkeys who create so much beautiful art and innovative…
Crafting a Net
Often we hope recovery from illness is as simple as fixing a single problem, but recovery through psychotherapy is less linear. It is more like…
International Men’s Day 2018
Happy International Men’s Day! Here’s a brief shout out to all the men and masculine folk who are working on finding and creating meaning, freedom,…
Cultivating Resilience through Calm
In this video, I offer a few simple strategies for calming the nervous system to help stay focused, thoughtful, and resilient when doing the things…