Dear Death, Last night I saw you embodied in the actress Aubrey Plaza as a character in a fun and surprisingly moving television series based…
Review – More Than Two, Second Edition: Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity, by Eve Rickert & Andrea Zanin
Engaging in intentional nonmonogamy is like choosing to take an elective graduate degree in having relationships. “More Than Two” is the hefty book one would…
Going private pay, politics, pickling and other reflections
A longer reflection on changes I’m making in my practice, the most significant of which is leaving insurance panels and going out of pocket only.
“Earlier this summer, during some spiritual work, I got the message: “Sacrifice your ego on the altar of abundance.” Initially I mistrusted these words as evocative of the kind of materialistic manifestation culture that is so prevalent on social media. And it truly has been a sacrifice of ego to acknowledge my needs and boundaries, but instead it’s my ego story of being the self-sacrificing martyr who works hard and needs little in return.”
Psychotherapeutic Access and the Contradictions of Progressive Neoliberalism
Recently I saw comments in a discussion about therapists and insurance in which the commenter condemned therapists who go private pay for being financially inaccessible.…
Self-directed, community-minded.
In a conversation this morning with a client we reflected on the kind of person who is self-directed but in a way that makes life…
Don’t fall before you’re thrown.
This week as a therapist has been a real throwback to the late 2016s and early 2017s when the political climate threw a lot of…
The Grandiose and The Powerless
I was at a friend’s party, having just had a personally beautiful and moving psychedelic experience, in which the god who experiences life through me…
Response: Three Books of Doom
A couple weeks ago, I was on the plane with my copy of Bowling Alone reading a prescient chapter about how the decline of American…
Man vs. Bear
A meditation on masculinity, protectiveness, and the little parts of us that just want to be loved but grow up into a world of potential violence.
Slowing Down and the Wheel
I turn 42 today, on eclipse day, and it has been a strange year leading to this moment. Some practitioners who work with Tarot use…