Resentment poisons love and relationships, and it is a feeling that some of us struggle to acknowledge. Since it’s a “bad” feeling or a sign…
No Judging, Just Feeling
Begrudging the happiness of others when we feel bitter is normal. Indeed, many of the so-called “negative” experiences that we vilify but nevertheless experience are…
Supporting Your Strong People: Some Suggestions
A friend of mine recently made a Facebook post that went viral about checking in on your strong people, or your “rocks,” that resonated with…
Find Your Dry Land: Cultivating Resilience Instead of Crisis
According to the American Psychological Association, “the primary factor in resilience is having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family. Relationships that create…
When will loses heart
Will is a beautiful, liberatory capacity and it can become a tyrant. This tendency is one of the reasons why will fell out of favor…
Impossible to Control
“Even though you try to put people under control, it is impossible. You cannot do it. The best way to control people is to encourage…
Willing with Discomfort
Some people feel they are completely without discipline and will, mostly thrown about by the waves of life circumstance, craving, accident, emotion, or simply being…
Unhooking
As a kid, I learned in First Aid not to pull out a fish hook if it got caught in my skin. The barb of…
Boundaries are about Self-Respect
Acknowledging and respecting boundaries and limits is healthy and gives us power, yet I notice often folks seem to set boundaries in ways that are…
Nothing to Fix
In the past few years my thinking has shifted around the idea of “fixing.” I am of the opinion that when it comes to myself,…