In some recent conversations with healers and healthcare providers, I had a thought about some struggles we have with connecting to some of the people…
Be Excellent to Yourselves
In the past I’ve written that I am not a fan of positive thinking. (Though I am a fan of Zap Mama’s song “Vibrations” in…
Are there bad feelings?
Are there “bad” feelings? In brief, my answer is no. Increasingly I am coming to challenge the language we use to describe our feelings, both…
4 Principles – Wholeness is in Relationship Between Parts
4. Our wholeness is in our relationship between our parts. I approach the self as both multiple and whole, differentiating between parts of self that…
4 Principles – As Within, So Without
2. As within, so without. This is a tricky one and requires context and balance. It begins with the assumption that we exist with an inner…
4 Principles – Purposeful and Paradoxical
For the next four blog posts, I will look at four key principles that inform how I approach psychotherapy. These come from practical experience and study…
A Practice with Love at the Center
What would life look like if efforts to grow and develop began from an attitude of love? For this conversation, I do not mean “love” as…
Don’t Try to Be Calm
Relaxation, peace, and calmness are not goals of mindfulness and meditation practices. They are often common and welcome side-effects, but in a sense they cannot…
Painful Habits
I am a fan of the song “Habits (Stay High)” by Tove Lo. In it, I hear a portrait of a person living through the self-harm that comes…
Unbalanced Personalities
As children, we crave attention and mirroring from our caregivers. The more we receive this attention and mirroring, the more capable we are of developing…